My Writing Progress and Journey Since Losing My Sister

Four and a half months ago, something happened to me that I had never experienced before. I thought it was just writer’s block at the time, but I gradually came to realize and accept that it wasn’t writer’s block and that I needed to take a break from writing and reading for a while. What I had actually experienced in March was a writer’s burnout. Writer’s burnout happens to writers when they grow tired of writing, because they’ve pushed themselves too hard to reach an certain goal before an certain time. I was tired of writing because at the time that my sister died unexpectedly last year from heart failure, I wanted to fall apart mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually, but couldn’t, because I was finishing up the last few classes of my masters degree and writing a masters thesis. I also planned her funeral, repast, burial, and clothing attire. I didn’t feel like writing anymore or doing anything else after she died, but because I was so close to graduating, I pushed myself harder than I should’ve towards graduation after her funeral and suffered a burnout because of it after I submitted my last assignment. I tried to keep writing after my gradaution requirements were fulfilled, but something didn’t feel right. Something was missing. My sister’s love, encouragement, and praise was missing because she was gone. Today, I’m growing stronger every day and starting to believe in my writing abilities again more and more each day. I’m slowly returning to myself again too. I’ve started reading for fun again sometimes and am starting to get excited about writing again, but I’m not quite ready to begin working on my next projects as a writer again yet. My sister’s death, my writing burnout, and watching Beyonce’s Homecoming documentary taught me that it’s okay to not always want to do the thing you’re most good at doing. Sometimes, you’ll tire of doing that thing and need a break from it, and that’s okay. I’m still a natural born writer. Right now, I’m just a wounded writer who needs to properly grieve her sister’s death, accept it, and find closure from it. I wouldn’t have chosen to have a writer’s burnout or to take a break from writing for a while, but God knew I needed a break, so He made me take one. My writing mojo will return in time, but until it does, I won’t rush it to return or try to hurry the grieving process along as I’ve done in the past. They’ll both pass in time without me interrupting them. For now, I’m okay with that.

Have you ever experienced a writer’s block or burnout before as a writer? What did you do to quell it? Feel free to comment below.

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35 thoughts on “My Writing Progress and Journey Since Losing My Sister

      1. To God be the Glory Ash, I’d want someone to do the same for me. We never know when our condition can be like someone else’s (my mom preached that one time) and it’s so true. My prayers are continual for you and your family. Much Love 💓

    1. I Totally Understand. My Daddy Passed Away In 2017. I Was Writing A Book During This Time. I Couldn’t Finish. My Mind Wasn’t There Or My Feelings. I Couldn’t Think. About Two Months Ago, I Decided To Finish. So Please Take All The Time You Need.

      1. My mom died in 2017 as well, and I’m still not myself. Haven’t been since she passed. I keep trying to fight my way back to me, but it’s taking sooooo long to get back to me. I was working on two short story collections when my sister passed last year. Haven’t been able to finish either one of them either. All I can do is write blog posts and poetry.

      2. You’ve Been Through A Lot. You’re Strong. I Can Tell. You Will Work Your Way Back To You. And Be Even Greater. So Sorry For The Loss Of Your Mom. Our Parents Energy Still Surround Us. I Only Do The Blog And Social Media Pages As Well.

      3. Yes, and still going through it. Still grieving on top of trying to get away from trifling jealous family members,generational curses, and a negative stifling environment now. I hope so, just pray for me.

  1. I’m a writer and I struggled when my sister went through breast cancer. She is a survivor, praise the LORD, but I understand how it rocks everything in your world. My sister is also my encourager. I use my blog as my outlet and I encourage you to do the same. It’s writing but it is also sharing a piece of your heart. I loved reading your story this morning and being connected to you through your blog. Don’t forget to walk through your grief with the Lord too by reading your Bible. He always says the right things just when you need it. Father, bless and carry Roshonda through her time of mourning. In the powerful and merciful name of Jesus. Amen.

  2. I’m so sorry about your sister. You two look like two peas in a pod. You must have been very close. I’m sure your heart is broken into a million pieces. It will take time. I’m glad you’re taking time from writing and listening to your inner self. That’s important. When you’re ready, your writing will still be waiting for you. Like an old friend and will welcome you back. You’re writing will be renewed and fresh and most likely even better.
    I, too, lost someone close to me recently. My husband. He passed away at the end of May. I haven’t written anything either but I felt like I wanted to write his story (at least from my perspective) from diagnosis until the end. It will be and is therapeutic and cathartic. I just started this week.
    God bless you as you travel this journey of grief.
    I’m here for you!

    1. We were two peas in a pod, we usually knew what one another was thinking without having to say it lol. My heart is broken still, my mom died the year before my sister did. When I’m ready, I know that I will write again and that it will be better. Thanks for the encouragement and support! It means a lot. My mom died of cancer as well, I’m sorry about your husband. May God comfort you in your time of grief as well.

      1. Oh no! I’m so sorry to hear that you lost your Mom too. You have really been going through it. Sometimes we feel so alone in this journey of grief. Sending you hugs, dear.

  3. Writers block gets to the best of us. In your case, Ash, it may be a combination of things that has manifested into writers block. However, we are confident that you will bounce back and be stronger than ever.

    Let your light shine through your writing.

  4. You’ll get back on track in no time. For sure, your lovely sister would have wanted the same if she’s here. May God bless you during this trying time.

  5. I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my younger brother in 2005. He was only forty years old but was a diabetic. I was nine years older than he and often felt like a surrogate mother when he was little. I still miss him, but he knew Jesus as his Savior so I know I’ll see him again one day. Both of my parents are in heaven as well. Knowing they are safe in the arms of Jesus is what keeps me, and has kept me from falling apart. But it still hurt. We lived many miles apart so were not close as I would have liked to have been. He was a United Methodist minister and had three churches, so getting away to visit us wasn’t much of an option either. All of that to let you know that, although we all grieve in our own way, we at least know the comfort and strength God vives when we most need it. Keep putting one foot in front of the other, and holding on to God’s mighty hand as He continues to hold you up.

  6. I also got stalled after grief. Such a big loss changes you as a person and will inevitably change your writing too. I’m sorry for what you’ve been and continue to go through. It’s a process.

  7. I’m so sorry for your loss. I understand this post. After my divorce, I went through the same thing. Look forward to reading when you come back.

  8. I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s so inspiring that you’re really listening to God’s voice, which is telling you to take time to heal. I wish you the best while you take this time and look forward to reading more whenever you’re ready to come back.

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