How My Decision To Be Celibate Affects My Dating (Love) Life


I’m celibate until marriage, and I have been since I was seventeen. My decision was made as a vow to God and a promise to myself to hold out on having sex until I had found the right man for me. Twelve years later, dating is hard for me and has been since I made the decision. The only difference is recently I decided to be upfront with guys about it before I started dating them, and let’s just say I never make it out on a date with guys once after revealing my truth to them. I recently decided to start telling guys who are interested in dating me (and everyone else) about my celibacy pact to give them a choice to pursue a relationship with me or run so that I’ll know where their hearts and motives lie right away. I’m getting older, and I don’t have time for games. I’ll be ready to settle down in a few more years. A lot of guys my age just aren’t ready to settle down or willing to do without sex in a relationship. Thus, my love life is non-existent. I have no dating life and haven’t since I made the decision to be celibate. It goes without saying that I’m not your typical millennial stereotype wise. Most young people my age’s dating lives and activities are ridiculous to me. My generation doesn’t really date or invest time and effort in one relationship at a time. They mostly have casual sex with many different people all the time, and if they find someone they love while living this life and want to get married some day they will. However, for the most part, most of them aren’t worried about marriage seeing how they have plenty of sex and children without needing to in today’s generation. To an outsider, it may seem like being celibate affects my love life negatively. Nevertheless, I don’t mind because I believe that my future husband will be worth the years of waiting and the fight to stay pure. For now, my love life sucks. Yet, I know my future husband is still out there somewhere waiting to find me and honor me for my decision by staying with me despite my no-sex rule. Until that day comes, pray for me, y’all. The dating scene is rough these days, lol.




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